Moonlit Aurora

You question her, her emotions, and her worth in your life now. It’s convenient, isn’t it. More words that erases history and shifts blame. It lets you dismiss the damage without ever looking at the hands that caused it. But you didn’t meet her this way. You met someone warm. Someone open. Someone who trusted easily because they believed honesty deserved a chance. She laughed freely.

IShe showed up fully. She loved without armor. That wasn’t weakness. That was courage. And you benefited from it for as long as it suited you.

Then things changed.

Not all at once. Slowly. Quietly. The stories stopped lining up. The words lost their weight. The truth started coming in fragments. At first, she explained it away. Everyone deserves grace, right? Then she started explaining herself away, shrinking her needs so your behavior could make sense.

She didn’t become guarded for no reason. She became guarded because trust kept getting punished. She didn’t become suspicious out of nowhere. She became suspicious because reality kept contradicting what she was being told. When honesty disappears, the nervous system takes over.

Protection replaces hope.

You call her reactive. But what is the calm response to repeated disrespect. To boundaries being ignored. To loyalty being treated as optional. Her reactions were not random explosions. They were alarms. Signals that something was deeply wrong.

You call her exhausting. But you weren’t the one carrying the emotional weight alone. You weren’t the one trying to hold the relationship together while being hurt inside it. You weren’t the one constantly choosing “us” while watching the other person choose themselves over and over again.

That kind of exhaustion changes people. That wasn’t anything but survival.

What you label as attitude is actually scar tissue.

What you call coldness is someone who learned that softness was not safe. What you describe as “too much” is the aftermath of being given too little for too long.

You didn’t lose someone good.

You wore them down.

And expecting someone to stay gentle when people kept hurting them is the real denial. Softness needs safety. Trust needs consistency. Love needs accountability.

She adapted.

And the version of her you complain about now is living proof of the damage you refuse to own.

Ask yourself : Why should others keep your actions a secret to protect YOU from consequences of your actions? When they had to live with the consequences of your actions?

ACCOUNTABILITY WHEN OTHERS TELL YOU HOW THEY FEEL WILL ALWAYS FEEL LIKE AN ATTACK WHEN YOU REFUSE TO ACKNOWLEDGE AN BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF ABOUT HOW YOUR OWN DIRECT ACTIONS AND BEHAVIORS HAVE HARMED SOMEONE ELSE. HIDING BEHIND THE “I DONT OWE ANYONE ANYTHING” EXCUSE IS AVOIDING ACCOUNTABILITY BUT YES YOU ACTUALLY DO OWE PEOPLE WHEN YOUR OWN ACTIONS HAVE IMPACTING OTHERS.

There’s a type of people who will only react to your reaction to a situation instead of acknowledging what caused your reaction to a situation in the first place. When people say “everything turns into an argument” what they really mean is “ you are trying to hold me accountable and I refuse to accept accountability” this kind of damage, this behavior from others causes brain damage….it actually damages people to the point it’s permanent. People need to start sitting and really thinking about their own actions, their avoidance of accountability, integrity, their ownership in weight they refused to carry, in what your decisions can do to others around you. Your choices, your decisions they do impact people and no it is not simply no big deal. There is very real trauma, people will not simply move forward from it causes actual permanent damage. Your actions carry weight and you do owe people accountability for damage, chaos and harm you cause in this life. It’s is never not a big deal.

The thing about the type of people that refuse to believe this is …when the one damaged by other people’s actions this time was the one who won’t simply let accountability and disrespect slide like others might. The empaths are the wrong ones to expect that from and the most dangerous ones especially. Because they eventually will choose to fight back against these kinds of people and everyone else that hurt them instead of staying silent. No one defeats those who behave that way like an educated empath….ask anyone the empath will ALWAYS win. Once they see behaviors, traits, get good reads on everyone around them they refuse to play the game anymore. Believing instead that the truth is the truth and are sticking to it. Not all of them will even eventually realize they may have hurt people and never had to own it but with you that they met their match those types of people vs. an empath. Because eventually when the empath snaps when hurt builds up. When they’re tired of explaining themselves, tired of understanding, tired of forgiving, tired of handing out chances to everyone like free passes or playing cards…

They snap. They react. They see what people are.

And they’ll stop playing the game and make you swallow your own shit. empaths play along, watching, waiting, collecting receipts. Then comes the silent strike. No chaos, just exposure. Those people they can handle rejection, but being fully seen? That’s one of the only things they’re afraid of. When you start questioning people, if you question truth, if you say anything that’s when panic sets in once you stop bevsuse you’ve already sat back silently and collected information about people’s behaviors, once you truly see others for who they are they don’t tend to like that very much. You just stop and instead of explaining yourself to anyone you calmly stop believing the bullshit everyone thought you believed, threw at you, everyone assumed you were too dumb to notice. People will say you were mean to them because you noticed their actions and confronted them but you wernt they just didn’t like what forced them to look in the mirror at their own reflections. The saddest part is everyone who treats you that way acts that way behaves that way or underestimates you that way, some of them they know. They know you aren’t dumb, they know you hold people to a higher standard, they know you’ll address everyone’s shit, they know of anyone you’ll be the one that will and isn’t afraid to say something, and all those people know so they’ll try and talk you down everytime because everyone knows what would happen when you stop accepting shit from everyone.

Not all empaths are the same there’s specifically one type backed, proven by psychology and research you underestimate. The “fallen angels” “the broken ones” “the dark empaths” the ones pushed too far too many times, who have gone through too many traumatic events, or went through too much, who snap. Still deeply kind, empathetic, understanding but they’ve also learned very well how some types of personality’s, others or specific kinds of people think. An elevated level of emotional intelligence than almost anyone. They will eventually no longer let empathy or sympathy hold them back from defending themselves. They’re the truth tellers, the whistle blowers, the ones who refuse to stay silent about what hurts them. And they’re the only match against everyone who’s personality is within the dark triad the 3 types of people they know better than anyone else on earth. Empaths not only know who they are ….they know who you are too.